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Thursday, March 5, 2009

I am done justifying it

DONE. I am done justifying what I spend my money on to people. I have had no less that four people (one online and three at the school) say to me, in the last three days no less, you go to Starbucks every day? Why yes, I do. And what the hell does it matter? That just seems like a waste of money, they've all said. Think of the things you could buy with that money. It adds up. Have you ever thought about that?

I'm sure it does add up. But I don't care. And I really want to know why anyone would care? You want to know what I spend a week at Starbucks? $20 freaking dollars. Add that to the $20 my husband spends a week and you've got $40 dollars. Holy crap. $40. Breaking the bank there I guess.

Could I make my coffee at home? I'm sure I could. I am certainly capable, in fact I own an espresso machine.

What I want to know is, why the fuck is it anyone else business where I spend my money? I don't buy expensive purses. I have one Coach purse that I use every single day, but I've had it for over four years. I don't buy expensive shoes. In fact, I don't really buy shoes for myself. I prefer the same pair of shoes that I've had for two years. Whenever I can, I wear flip-flops. I don't buy expensive clothes. I do buy new clothes for my ever growing children, but hey, they can't exactly walk around nekkid. Also, I live right near a great outlet mall.

Logan and I live within our means. We always have. We are smart about our money. We started out buying a condo, then we sold it and bought a house. We have savings, that we add money too every month. All three of our kids have a college fund. We have a house, two paid off cars (which we bought used) and absolutly no debt. If I can't pay for something, or I know I won't be able to pay it off at the end of the month, I don't buy it. Plain and simple. Yes, we've been lucky. But I've been working my ass off since I was fourteen years old and I've always been good with money. Am I rich, hell no. I will most likely never be. But I can afford my freaking Venti Non-Fat Mocha with whip cream from Starbucks. Every day, forever, if I want too.

This irritates me. People judging me, telling me how I should live my life, irritates the fuck out of me. I don't judge others for what they spend. I happen to know that one of the people who said what she said to me, drives a freaking top of the line huge ass SUV when she only has two kids. Another goes out to night clubs every weekend and drinks long island iced teas like they are water. That can't be cheap. Either way, I don't care, so why the heck do they?


Jaden Paige said...

They shouldn't.

You totally should have called them out on the spot. Like, hey, at least I'm not out spending money on gallivanting, getting rubbed up on by dirty dudes at the club and $7 watered-down drinks!

Grr. I can totally see why it pisses you off. Pisses me off thinking about it! People sometimes...

jennster said...

it's no one's fucking business. if you were walking around saying how you couldn't afford food or gas, while holding a starbucks cup, then i could understand people wanting to bitch slap you. but since you're from LA, and we don't do that kind of stuff, i highly doubt that is how you're acting. :)

next time someone talks about your starbucks daily drink, tell them to go choke on a dick. and if that doens't work, send em to me. :)

Christy said...

Oh I love this post/rant. I'm a fellow flip-flop wearing, don't buy if I can't afford it, starbucks (grande black and white mocha, thank you very much) drinker. Here here!!

Kirsten said...

Oh my gosh Issa... Amen sister! I so feel you on this one. You may have inspired a similar post for me. I'll keep you posted. (ha, ha)

Enjoy your mocha. :-)

Kari said...

I find that people who are the most judgemental are really just trying to make themselves feel less guilty about what they spend money on.

So, have your venti non-fat mocha with whip cream, and I'll be chinking my Starbucks cup with you over here as I enjoy my grande chai tea latte with extra foam!

Marinka said...

I think it would be better if instead of spending money on Starbucks, you sent it to me. Ditto about your kids' college funds. I need lip gloss more than they need an education.

J from Ireland said...

I would hate to add up how much we spend on diet coke each week!!
Fuck the begrudgers!!

debra said...

Why is there so much judgment in the world? Can't we just live and let live?

Uggh. I understand your frustration. xoxo

Fairly Odd Mother said...

Boy do I understand what you mean. Heck, I'm a stay-at-home mom and I hire a cleaning service to come every week and I spend a lot of money on groceries. But, you know, I cook most things from scratch (or almost scratch), we live well within our means and save money for college, retirement, etc, and I'm sick of cleaning.

Go enjoy your Starbucks now. I make my coffee at home but mail order special beans from my favorite coffee shop, so I'm just as 'extravagant' (ha).

Michelle said...

It is no one's business. If that is your little bit of fun/sanity, who cares? Enjoy your coffee and forget anyone who attempts to tell you otherwise.

EatPlayLove said...

I agree with you, although being a tea drinker I do get a bit miffed at what Starbucks charges for a damn tea.

Maybe the judgements come from those struggling right now?

anymommy said...

Raise your hand if you go to SB every day...! (that's me, upsidedown, raising my hand).

I agree and I've been thinking a lot about judgy people lately (being on the receiving end a bit myself). It always seems to come down to the fact that some people in this world can't accept that just because their decisions are right for them, doesn't mean that everyone else in the world is wrong. It's insecurity at it's worst.